Category Archives: Grieving

#BlogElul 3: Search

For much of my life, I have searched. For reasons. For answers. For relief. For a way out of this amorphous pain I felt. An unknown, and un-understood something. I had no idea what. Or whether. Or why. I knew … Continue reading

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On Being Molested – Part 5

First, a totally irrelevant point – is it really July? Impossible – it was just March. Time really does fly…even if you’re not having fun. I continue to ponder my parts these days, as we enter into the month that … Continue reading

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On Being Molested – Part 4

How did being molested at an early age change me, I wonder? Because I don’t know who I was, or who I was meant to be, or who I might have been. All that can never be discovered or retrieved, … Continue reading

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On Being Molested, Part 3

On hard days, I still talk to my different parts. Most of the conversations happen late at night, when I can’t sleep. When ghosts try to enter the inner sanctum. When I am most vulnerable – at my most tired. … Continue reading

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On Being Molested, Part 2

The aftershocks of being molested as a young child can feel unending.They can come fast and furious, or wait for months before the ground again gives way in an earthquake of epic proportions. They hit hard, and I fall hard. … Continue reading

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Burying the Ghosts of Trauma

As I have worked my way through the worst of my trauma – the debilitating, breath-stopping, function-sucking part – I have tried to buried my father’s ghost hundreds of times, with varying degrees of success. In retrospect, it amazes me … Continue reading

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On Being Molested

How’s that for a title? Over the past decade, so much of my life has been about healing. About learning how to trust after a lifetime (really, truly – a lifetime) spent in the trust abyss. I have done it … Continue reading

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